On the honeymoon (For Steve & Kristy only two weeks to go)

A young couple got married. On their honeymoon, they were very anxious about having sex because they were both virgins. Because of their sexual inexperience, they were a bit uncomfortable discussing the subject so they came up with the term "doing the laundry" to use in place of "having sex."

This made them both more comfortable with the whole concept. Well, the first night of their honeymoon was wonderful. They "did the laundry" 5 times that first night. In the middle of the night the new husband woke up, and he was ready to do the laundry again. He gently shook his new wife and asked her, "Can we do the laundry again?" but she was very tired.

She told him that she just couldn't do it again just yet. Maybe in the morning. A few hours later the new wife awoke feeling very guilty. What he had asked for wasn't unreasonable, and she decided she should go ahead and "do the laundry" with him again.

She gently shook him and said, "Honey, I'm sorry I denied you... We can do the laundry again if you want,"

He replied, "That's ok... It was a small load... I did it by hand.
 

SO CORNY IT HURTS!

A guy walks into a bar and approaches the barman, "Can I have a pint of Less, please?"

"I'm sorry sir," the barman replies, looking slightly puzzled, "I've not come across that one before. Is it a spirit?"

"I've no idea," replies the guy, "The thing is, I went to see my doctor last week and he told me that I should drink less."

Use Empowering Words When You Talk to Yourself

How do you talk to yourself?

Do you use the words "can't", "won't", "don't need to", "why try"?
Many people do.

Do you find that what you say to yourself turns out to be true?

Why is this?

You see your brain is like a computer that you feed each day. It doesn't know always know what's real or not unless you tell it.

Example for the ladies out there (maybe the fellas also): If someone you love has hurt you, you may tell yourself that all people who love you will probably hurt you too.

Your brain just files this information for reference, it's data, little zeroes and ones and no column that asks "true or not true?" Now your brain thinks, based on what you told it, that everyone you'll ever love will hurt you.

How do you think you will respond the next time you get hurt?

Right!!

Now, what if we instead told our brain:

"Okay this person ripped my heart out - but that's only one person. I'm lovable and have many loving people in my life who are not out to hurt me. I know that the right people are coming into my life all the time. If someone hurts me, I will forgive them and bless them on their way."

Words can be empowering.

I can
I love to
I want to
I will
I must
I am

We can reach a new level of living, if we feed ourselves empowering words and practice saying them until they become a habit.

I know first hand that it takes time.

And I also know that it's worth it.

Try it for a week.

Catch yourself saying, "I can't", when you don't really mean it and instead try, "I can", and see how you think and feel about yourself.

Remember, the words you use to empower yourself will have a lasting effect, only if you practice them and they become a habit.

They say it takes at least 28 days to develop a habit. After a week, you will see that it becomes easier. It's a mindset and you can control your thoughts. Be proactive and not reactive - give yourself some good words.

Dream big and empower yourself! Believe you can and you will.

The dreaded (or loved) No. 2's - Where to or not to let loose?

Its as natural as bee's making honey...its as natural as rain falling from the sky...so why do we get so nervous about where we are going to "drop the kids off at the pool"?

Myself well, im proud of what i can accomplish when im on the can! To some people that sounds disgustng, but to me its normal!

Its just like talking to your mates about sex or to your friends about how you look to cook! Why is talking about your number 2's any different (i can feel you all just wanting to comment on this post right now)...

Anyway back to the point of the post which is about "where or where not to do number 2's".

Well lets look at the facts:

1. Its obviously better for you to have it out instead of in!
2. If its in public, no one knows who you are and you will never see them again...
3. If its at a family members place, well your blood and its expected!
4. A a close friends place, then again they are like your family and have to expect it!
5. If its at a strangers place, well its a great way to break the ice!

Love your number 2's, cause if you don't who will!

Pressure

So how do you define pressure?

For me its simply my own expectation of always trying to improve something, invent something or make a difference to someone or something every day!

Now that's crazy, image the thoughts and feelings that go through your mind in a 24 hour period about what you can change, who you can impress or what is going to be great! No wonder i don't sleep much and feel like i have 100 tonnes on my shoulders each day.

This type pressure can literally tear you apart! Last week i experience this and believe me its not somewhere you want to be. Somethings are inevitable and that's just life but what really is important is sometimes lost in the mix of it all. This is 100% true for me and I'm yet to conquer the technique to make myself understand when i need to stop, take a breath or just chillax and concentrate on making me happy!

Being a manager of a team, you need to lead with confidence and assertiveness and that in itself is a pressure that can be overbearing every day of your working life.

I try to be the one with all the answers, I try to be the one with the calming words and the person who gives you (my team members) the inspiration to keep motivated everyday! As the song goes..."what about me, it isn't fair"...seriously what about me? Who's going to give me the calming words to settle me down, who's going to give me the inspiration to keep motivated everyday!

Well you know what, I'm realised how ignorant i am, how foolish i can be! I received messages on Friday night that changed how i look at things! Maybe it took the stress of the week to make me realise how much pressure i was putting on myself, but i have people next to me and on the phone to me each day that inspire me to keep motivated every day!

"Turn your phone off, tell everyone your not working tomorrow! I'll take care of everything! You need to take the day off and clear your head"...

One of my team members said this to me and that proves to me their is the same support and inspiration out there for me as i feel is expected by me to that person.

In short, pressure is what you make it to be! You don't always have the be the hero even though your the boss, father our person looked upon as the leader. Listen to people around you and let them ease your worries!

Over and out - Faz...